Myth: Happy Couples can see things through each other’s eyes
Reality: You can’t possibly see things the same way as your mate, because you are not the same people. You are different genetically, physically, and psychologically, and you’ve had different experiences in the world. Besides, men and women aren’t wired the same.
Myth: Happy Couples always have lots of romance
Reality: Most people confuse that giddy, dizzy feeling you have early on in your relationship with romance. Nope. That’s infatuation and it will pass. It’s novelty, excitement and newness, but it does not sustain a relationship. Romantic love is emotionally driven.
Myth: Happy couples resolve all their disagreements
Realty: There are some basic issues you will always disagree about. You each have your own opinions on these things that won’t change. Just agree to disagree.
Myth: Happy couples need to have common interest
Reality: It’s a bonus if you do., but there’s nothing wrong with your relationship if you don’t do the same activities. If you and your partner are forcing yourself to engage in common activities but the results are stress, tension and conflict, do not do it.
Myth: Happy couples do not fight
Reality: Conflict is a fact of life in most relationships, and arguing as long as it’s not destructive and doesn’t turn into character assignation, isn’t a negative thing. Arguing can actually help the relationship by releasing tension and instilling the sense of peace and trust that comes from knowing you can express feelings without being abandoned or humiliated.
Myth: Happy couples vent all their feelings to each other
Reality: Getting things off your chest might feel good, but when you blurt something out in the heat of the moment, you risk damaging the relationship permanently. Many relationships are destroyed when one partner can’t forgive something that was said during uncensored venting. Think before you say something you might regret.
Myth: Being a happy couple has nothing to do with sex
Reality: If you want a good sexual relationship it needs to be embedded in a good overall relationship. That being said, a good sexual relationship is important, because it can make you feel closer, more relaxed, more accepted and more involved with your partner. The intimacy that comes from sexual interaction takes the relationship to a completely different level. Keep sex on your list of priorities.
Myth: Happy couples are always in syn sexually
Reality: Except maybe in the beginning when you can’t keep your hands off of each other, it’s totally normal for you to be in the mood at different times. Partners rarely have the same level of sex drive at the same time. Negotiate for some middle ground that you both be happy with. Relationships are about negotiation and compromise and it never stops