What you say to yourself can directly affect how you feel and subsequently how you behave in a situation. Your thoughts have great power over your feelings.
When you feel upset, angry, or sad, challenge your thoughts. See if you can catch the thought behind those feelings. For example, if someone feels scared they could be thinking, “oh no! I’m sure something bad is going to happen!’
Once you have caught the unhelpful thoughts, start challenging them,
- Am I making a big deal out of this?
- Am I sure this really going to happen?
- Does it really matter what other people think?
- .Is this really true?
- Is it the end of the world?
- Have I coped with this before?
- Is it helping me to think like this?
- If my best friend thought this way, what would I say to them?
- How could I answer back to this thought to put it in its place?
After you challenge your thought work to reframing it into a more helpful and realistic one, based on facts not feelings.